Showing posts with label helena. Show all posts
Showing posts with label helena. Show all posts
Friday, April 01, 2016 0 comments By: Kate

I'm still alive... I bet you were wondering.

Oi.

I bet you thought I dropped off the face of the planet, didn't you?

Nope. Still here.

So much has been happening in life, where do I start to bring you back up to speed?

Logical timelines are boring, and I'm sure to leave some important stuff out, so I will just hodge-podge my way through this post, much like I do with life. I'm sure to forget lots of important details and we can only hope that I'll remember to bring stuff up in some later post.

I'm back, baby! And I'll try to stay for a while, though in a moment you will learn why sticking around and visiting with you will amount to an herculean task for me.

Current events of my life in a nutshell:


  • About a year and a half ago, I was approached over the course of several months by a couple of BYU professors who were supposed to be monitoring and evaluating their student teacher in my care. Rather than watching her, however, they were recruiting me for their Master's of Art in Art Education program. I said "thanks, but no thanks... I can't afford it." Their response was to assure me that they had a grant that would cover the cost of tuition! That was the impetus I needed to make a huge life decision. I jumped into the deep end with both feet and began my Master's. Of course, life is never so neat and tidy. The "full tuition" grant turned out to be only partial tuition and has left me scrambling to come up with the rest of the funding for my education; but I believe it will be worth it in the end. I will get a significant pay raise once I earn the degree, and I'm working with BYU on adding a secondary teaching certificate to my degree so that I can expand my teaching range up into the middle and high schools.

  • The Master's program is in full swing and I am treading water. I'm coming up on the end of my second semester and still have my head above the foam, so to speak. I have written more words in the past few months that I have written since... well, since I last visited with you, to be honest. This program is thesis driven, so I will be writing a great many more words before all is said and done. I seem to be holding my own, and I think I have a lifetime of journal writing to thank for that.

  • In the process of jumping into my Master's, I've also started pushing myself to grow as an artist. I set up my studio in my classroom and have produced more artwork in the past year than I have in a long time. I attended the UAEA (Utah Art Education Association) conference and as a result I'm now enrolled to take a three day seminar called the DaVinci Initiative this summer. It is a crash course in atelier training. That's old school artistic training. This will be on top of my summer course load at BYU, of course. I also met some other artists at the conference who have invited me to studio sessions with them. I am now meeting up with a group of artists every Saturday morning to work on figure drawing from a live model. THAT is really pushing me! I rely on photo reference so I can work slowly and precisely. Having to do quick live sketches forces me to be more speedy in my observational skills.


Yawn. Am I putting you to sleep, yet? I'm putting myself to sleep, so let's move this thing along:


  • We have a new principal at Harvest who is not convinced that art is all that important. He sees it as "icing" to be enjoyed after the meatier subjects are consumed. We've had some intellectual discussions as I have labored to persuade him otherwise. I feel like I am making some progress. 


  • Another BYU professor, is approaching me with a proposal to give me the opportunity to work full time at my school by converting my job with the Beverley Taylor Sorensen grant. I won't go on and on about it, because details are killing this post. If it happens, it will mean more money for me, and a full time job on top of full time school next Fall. Stress, stress, stress, stress. But exciting, nonetheless. More on that later.


  • One HUGE development is that HELENA IS GETTING MARRIED! Her fiance, Jayce Morgan, proposed on Christmas Eve in front of all of us and they are getting married on Monday, May 16th. Wedding plans are in full swing and I'll probably write some dedicated posts just about all things wedding in the near future.


  • Another huge upcoming event is that MATT IS ALSO GETTING MARRIED! He and his fiancee, Kara, were supposed to be getting married this month, but they have pushed the wedding back to September 24th. They haven't discussed many wedding details with us, besides the fact that she has her dress and their colors will be red, black, and silver.
  • To round out my updates on my kids, Will is currently working as a "grease monkey" as a local Grease and Go. It's an oil and lube kind of place. He is covered in black, sooty greasiness more often than not, and is very happy. He bought a Civic, paid it off, and has now bought a little Mazda Miata convertible that is his "project car". He's stripping it down and leaving tiny bits and pieces of it strewn all about my driveway. He's still serving in the Army Reserves one weekend a month and has been promoted to Specialist. He turned in the paperwork to go active duty, but since that has to travel through 9 levels of command structure without getting lost or rejected somewhere along the chain, I'm not going to give it a lot of thought or energy until something comes of it.

There is still lots of life to be told, but this post is already much too long. I will try to write again tomorrow.



Wednesday, July 23, 2014 0 comments By: Kate

Missing Summers Past

Do I have a bunch of other things I should be doing?  Of course.  If I wanted to do them, though, don't you think I would have started on them by now?  Sheesh.  Summer is my time to procrastinate horribly on all things not lazy and summery.

Now that we have that out of the way, I have to tell you why this is the hardest summer, ever!

No, really.

Summers had been my time to play with my kids.  We hung out at the pool, or the lake, or the water park (notice the water related theme?), we watched movies, or we wandered around town looking for fun stuff to do.  We'd flood the backyard and paddle around in it, then watch the dragonflies dance across the makeshift pond.  When they were little, they'd have sleep outs in the tree house up in the cherry tree.  Later, the backyard campouts moved down to a tent in the yard when they got too big for the tree house.  Their friends came over and we had late night bonfires, roasting hot dogs and s'mores while lazily listening to the crickets and the train whistle in the distance while counting stars.  Sweet summertime teen romances flared up only to die down with the start of a new school year.

My summer was full of my kids.

Not so much, anymore.

Helena works full time.  Her boyfriend has relocated to Oregon, so when she's not at work, she's Skyping him.  That is how it should be.  When she has a day off, we spend it together, so I'm not totally alone, but her days off are few and far between.  It's not the same as when we all had summer vacation together.  She has grown up.

Will is gone.  We write letters.  He writes letters.  I had NO IDEA how difficult this would be for me. I think about him constantly.  Correction, I worry about him constantly!  He is doing something so difficult, only made worse by the disgusting heat he has to do it in!  I can't fall asleep at night for worrying about him.  I wake up early worrying about him.  If I could siphon off some of my energy and willpower and send it to him, I would in a heartbeat.

I thought I was prepared for this.  After all, I was an Army Sister, and a Navy Sister-in-Law.  And I was a Marines Step-Mom.  And I did worry about my brothers and my step son.  But not like this!  I can't decide if it is just because he is my youngest, or if it is because we share a special bond that is rare for a teen son and his Mom.  All I know is that I pray for him almost constantly.  I watch the news with extra concern.  It feels like the world is imploding and I want to keep my son safe, but I can't because he is a soldier and that is what he chose.

I have always been a worrier, anyways.  I used to worry about the kids walking home from Elementary School.  I worried when they got their driver's license.  I worried when they went on their first dates.  I worry whenever they have to face something new.

It is amazing I don't have a stomach full of ulcer holes, actually.

So, I wish I could go back in time and relive those summers past.

If you are in the thick of a child filled summer, CHERISH IT!  It will not come again!  Play with them! Swim with them!  Forget about the chores!  Who cares about the house!

Go!

Do stuff WITH the kids!

Make memories and savor every moment.
Tuesday, September 24, 2013 1 comments By: Kate

Blessed

Just when I am fuming and bitter over some disappointment dealt to me by my daughter, a friend posted to Facebook the sad news that his new baby daughter did not survive her pre-term delivery.



And I am shamed.

And I am humbled.

And I am reminded of the great blessing of having my beautiful daughter in my life.  I have had nearly 20 years of love and laughter that my friend will have to forgo, because his beautiful daughter has left this mortal life.  I can hopefully look forward to many more moments of wonder and love in the years to come.

We are imperfect beings, living in an imperfect world.  But there are moments of perfect happiness that can be stored away in memories.  They are such great blessings in life.

Happiness is fleeting.

Love is eternal.

I am sorry for my friend.



And I love my daughter.
Sunday, September 22, 2013 0 comments By: Kate

I'm a Wreck

It is ridiculous how much time has gone by without a post.  Life, I guess.

There have been many times I have meant to sit down and write about something that has happened, but the moment passes and now I forget what I wanted to say.  Hopefully it wasn't too important.

Summer has gone, and I feel cheated out of the best weather of the year.

I'm sick, you see.

I had Strep for a week (including the weekend), which morphed into a cold with chest congestion that has ruined yet another weekend for me.  Bah humbug and harrumph.  I hate being sick, but it is especially rude in late September - when we experience the most amazing and awesome weather of the year!  Two perfect weekends totally ruined.  I'm feeling quite bitter.

My family has taken advantage of the weather, though.  Bill has been on multiple bike rides.  Helena did the Electric Run at Thanksgiving Point, which looked like a cross between a 5K and a rock concert.  Will took a friend with him to windsurf on the lake all day.  He got an impressive sunburn.

I sat inside rubbing my nose raw on tissues.

I also missed the last week of outdoor swimming.  Grrr.

Still, onward and upward, eh?

I'm starting to want to exercise again, a sure sign I'm getting better.  And really, October has great hiking weather, so there's that to anticipate.

Meanwhile, I'm in physical therapy for the spot on my back that got hurt in the car accident last year.  It started hurting again for no apparent reason.  The doctor said that the insurance won't cover the cost of an MRI until after p/t has been done.  Phooey.  P/T costs a $30 copay each time I go, which is twice a week.  It does not fit in the budget, but what do you do?

Man!  I'm a wreck!


Monday, May 20, 2013 0 comments By: Kate

Helena's Place

Right after Bill and I got back from Hawaii, Helena packed up and moved out.

That sounds bad, but is actually an awesome thing.

When you say someone packed up and moved out, it makes it sound like there was some emotional blow up and the move was done in anger.  That is so far from the truth!

We knew she'd be moving out.  The only reason she waited until after we got back from Hawaii was so she and Will could stay together and look out for each other while we were gone.

So, as soon as we got home, she began packing.

Helena's best friend's name is Megan.  Megan lives in an apartment in her grandparent's basement two towns over.  Helena moved in with her and another girl, named Lindsay.  I think it is the best possible first step to independence.  There are grandparents upstairs to turn to for help, and the rent is cheaper than anything else she would possibly find, again, because it is grandma and grandpa discounted.  Three college aged girls living in a basement apartment.  Sounds like such an adventure, doesn't it?

The catch?  There are only two bedrooms and apparently the girls don't intend to share a room.  So, Helena has a bed set up in the corner of the kitchen.  Weird, right?!?  But the girls are all happy with the arrangement, Megan's grandparents are fine with it, too... so, okay!

Helena left a bunch of stuff here, and her bedroom has not turned into a guest room, yet.  She still comes over often... at least once a week she comes home.  She even stays overnight from time to time, especially if there is too much "month at the end of her paycheck" as the saying goes, and she wants to save some money on gas or food.  She even comes home to "shop" in my pantry occasionally.

Helena leaving was really hard for me.  I missed her horribly, at first.  I got all sad and would just go stand in her half empty bedroom and look around at the things she left behind.  I'd get all nostalgic and weepy, remembering times gone by.  Oh, I wish they didn't have to grow up!  But I also often wish they'd just grow up so I won't have to be responsible for them anymore!  I know.  I'm messed up in the head.

Now that some time has gone by, I am better about it.  I'm not so depressed that my little girl is off having college aged adventures.  But, still, my mood always perks up when Helena comes home.
Saturday, April 20, 2013 2 comments By: Kate

Too Much to Write About...

OK.  So I know I have neglected this thing something fierce.  I apologize.  There is lots to tell you, and I'm not going to be able to do everything justice in one post.  I think that's part of the problem.  If I don't get things recorded right away, they start stockpiling in my mind and it gets overwhelming thinking of all the things I need to write about.  I really haven't forgotten about writing, you see.  I am constantly composing posts in my head.  Unfortunately, most of those posts never happen because I am not in a position to actually write them in the moment.  So what you read on the blog is only a fraction of what gets composed in my head.  Then, if it piles up in my head, you don't get to read any of it because I get shut down by thinking of how much catching up I have to do.  And, the "catch up" posts are never as vivid and detail rich as the original composition in my head.  So, again, sorry about that!

What have you missed?


  • Bill and I traveled to Oahu for a week to celebrate our 20th anniversary.  Lots of stories to tell you.  Awesome pictures will be posted to Facebook at some point... probably.


  • As soon as we got back, Helena moved out and is now living with her best friend in a basement apartment two towns over.  I am super sad she is no longer my little girl and I miss her something fierce!

  • On the same weekend Helena moved out, one of Will's classmates (and friend) committed suicide.  I did not know the boy, but man!  It made me so sad for his family and worried about my own son and his mental health.  I am exhausted from the roller coaster of emotions between joy on my anniversary trip, and grief the following week for the senseless loss of this young man.


  • Will took the ACT for the first time back in March and got a FANTASTIC score!  We're super proud of his brains.


  • We refinanced the house to a 10 year term with a rockstar interest rate.  It will save us tens of thousands of dollars without changing our monthly payment!  Yeah, baby!


  • I am still training for the marathon, though it is painful and difficult.  Today's run was 16.5 miles.  I doubt I will ever do another marathon after crossing this one off my bucket list.  I am even considering removing the full Ironman from the bucket list simply because 26.2 miles of running is super hard on my knees.


  • Will is off on another National Guard drill weekend.  He still plans to enlist on his 17th birthday.  I can feel how very little time I have left with him before he, too, moves out.  With Helena and Will both gone, the house feels WAY too quiet and empty.  I find myself wandering into their rooms and just standing there, feeling sad.


Each one of these things deserves its own post.  I will try to work my way through them tomorrow.  That should be a good Sunday activity, right?
Tuesday, February 12, 2013 1 comments By: Kate

Late Teens

And, no, I am not referring to teens that are always late...

... oh, wait a minute.  Yes, I am.

The late teen years (16-19) are an incredible adventure... 

... for the teen.

For parents, the late teen years can be full of frustrations and expenses.  Expenses?  We have watched our car insurance double, our food and utility bills go up, and experienced sticker shock at gift giving times.  There are school fees and technology needs (no joke).  But the expenses are really just part of the experience of raising kids, and are manageable because we know they are temporary.  Soon enough the kids will leave home and the expenses will drop substantially.

No, the frustrations are the part I really want to talk about.  

Thinking back to when I was 16-19 years old, I still didn't really see my parents as individuals.  Not yet.  They were still MOM and DAD.  MOM and DAD had one function only.  To provide for us kids.  That meant they were supposed to feed us and clothe us, take us on vacations, pay for our stuff, and nag, pester, and harass us about school/church/chores.  In the meantime, it was my job to inform them of how outdated their view points were, how things were different now, and that they should just trust me and let me do whatever I wanted.  [Yeah, I never convinced them of any of that, by the way.]  By the time I was 19, I was pretty convinced I was all grown up.  I was "An Adult", who didn't need my parents telling me when to be home or what to do.

It wasn't until I was truly an adult (meaning I had moved away and was now fully supporting myself financially) that I started seeing my parents as individuals with needs and wants that really had NOTHING to do with their kids whatsoever!  Woah!  And I didn't empathize with my parents' struggles with teen aged kids until I had teens of my own.  So, I don't expect my kids to understand or empathize with me anytime soon.

Still, it would be nice.

Where is all of this rambling-ness going, you ask?

I just really, really want my daughter to be courteous and come home at a reasonable hour on weeknights.  Not stay out til midnight or later because she doesn't work until evening shift and can sleep in the next day.  Great for her, crappy for me.  I do have to go to work in the morning and would like to have a good night's sleep.

Just give her a curfew, you say?  Yeah.  Nineteen is a difficult age for that.  She feels she has a right to stay out as late as she wants.  And really, if she was living in an apartment with roommates, she could.  But she is not living in an apartment.  She is living at home.

She has told me to just go to bed and not wait up for her.  My response to that is simply that just because she is being selfish doesn't mean I am going to be selfish.  You see, I wait up because I love her.  I wait up to make sure I don't sleep right through a call for help.  I wait up to remind her that she is not an island.  Her actions do affect those around her who care about her.  

It is true that apartment living with roommates is much more "freeing".  But roommates don't wait up for you... because they don't love you.  It doesn't matter to them one way or the other if you make it back home again in one piece.  That sounds callous.  Of course, they'll care.  After the fact.  After something disastrous happens.  But they won't stay up waiting for a phone call that tells them you need help.  Someday, she'll have a spouse who will wait up for her, because he will love her and not want to go to bed until he knows she is home safe.  

I know she'll move out sometime soon, if only to feel that freedom of having no one care enough to wait up for her.  It feels so liberating, at first.  But, really, it can be incredibly lonely.  I remember living in an apartment with 5 other girls and feeling severely depressed and homesick because no one truly loved me in that apartment.  I didn't realize that was the reason for the homesickness, at the time.  I just knew I was miserable and lonely in a house full of other people.  

Until the day she moves out, it is my job to love her enough to want to wait up to see her safely home.  And care enough about her to hear about her adventures.

I just wish she could see me more as an individual who needs a good night sleep before I go to work and less like MOM who has outdated points of view.  I know she loves MOM.  I just wish that she loved Kate enough to come home early on weeknights.  


Thursday, October 25, 2012 1 comments By: Kate

Anything that can go wrong...

You know the saying.

This is a grump-fest post.  Please don't feel like you need to cheer me up or anything.  Sometimes I just need to write down some of the stuff banging around in my head to make it stop bothering me.  Believe me, once I finish this post, I will feel lots better and I'll be able to move on cheerfully.  First, though, a rant.

Why is it that bad stuff all happens a once?  I mean, really?!


  • You already know my new car is in the body shop getting plastic surgery after an unfortunate incident that messed up its tail end.  Still not back.
  • You also already know I hate my weenie-mobile rental car.  Now more than ever for reasons about to be revealed.
  • Monday, Will drove to school and accidentally left the parking lights on in the Expedition, which killed the battery.  Dead as a doornail (what a weird phrase!).  Do you know how long it takes to use a weenie-mobile battery to jump start a big beastly Expedition battery?  A little over 40 minutes.  Since we were in the mostly empty school parking lot... no sweat.
  • This morning, while Will was driving to school, the Expedition suddenly lost power everything (steering and electrics), then died on him when he managed to get it pulled mostly onto the side of the road.  He was blocking the right turn lane, but at least he was out of the middle of the road, right?
  • Automotive gymnastics was not on my to-do list today, but I still managed to get the weenie-mobile nose to nose with the Expedition despite all the other drivers on the road looking at me like I'd lost my mind.  Oh, and to get the full visual, be sure to put me in pajamas!
  • Trying to jump start an elephant like the Expedition with a mouse like the weenie-mobile in the middle of traffic during morning rush hour?  Not on my list of fun activities for the day.  It didn't work, of course, because we didn't have 40 minutes to sit around and wait for a big enough charge to build up.
  • Don't you think tow companies are in the business of coming to the rescue of stranded motorists?  If you thought so, you'd be as wrong as I was.  I was told by two different companies that they "didn't have time to come out to tow my car".
  • I can feel more expenses coming on with these new car troubles.
  • Helena's phone is on the blink (it only works sporadically at this point), so she missed the text from her boss telling her that the shifts had been changed and why wasn't she at work today?  
  • Helena also managed to fall on the stairs today while home alone and is now sporting wicked scabs and bruises all over her legs and feet. (I am truly glad it wasn't worse!  What if she'd broken a leg while all alone at home!  Poor girl.)
  • Will's friend, Dallan, actually DID break his leg yesterday.  He'll require surgery that sidelines him for the entire skiing season.  Poor boy!  Dallan is Will's best skiing buddy, so I know Will's bummed, too.
  • Will has been given an "Unexcused Absence" by his English teacher for leaving class early.  That freezes his grade until he goes to Attendance School TWICE.  An unexcused absence is considered a sluff and carries double penalty.  Each attendance school session costs $5.
  • I've had a dead toe nail ever since the half Ironman back in August.  Could it just fall off already?!?
  • And to top it all of?  I HAVE A STUPID COLD SORE!  Gah!  



See.  I feel better already.

PS:  I do need to say this...

As Will and I were stuck on the side of the road, desperately trying to figure out how to get out of the way of traffic and get the dumb Expedition back home, Liz M (Bill's niece) happened to drive by in her (nicer, newer, better-er) Expedition and asked if we needed a tow!

!!!!

Hooray for Liz!!!!

I sent Will home in the rental while I rode in our Expedition as Liz towed it back home.  She was my life saver this morning and completely turned a disastrous situation around!!!  (Note to self:  I was very impressed that Liz just happened to have a tow rope in her car.  I should get one and put it in my car, just in case...... whenever I get my car back, that is)

PPS:  I also need to say this...

When Bill got home from work this evening, he used his gargantuan work truck to jump start the Expedition and then left them hooked up charging the battery for a couple of hours.  That should keep the Expedition running until Saturday, when he can take it in to have the battery and alternator checked.

PPPS:  Really, I'm just about done...

Can you tell that some of my rants are just silly?  Those are my way of humorizing my life.  If you can't laugh at yourself, life is pretty grim.
Monday, October 15, 2012 1 comments By: Kate

First Accident

If you think about it, we are all a little crazy.  We all strap ourselves into moving metal boxes and travel around KNOWING that eventually the odds are that we will crash.  Someone will do something stupid - maybe you, maybe me - and two cars will collide.  We wouldn't bother throwing our money at car insurance, otherwise.

Accidents happen.  They are a fact of life.  A fact that we all acknowledge subconsciously as we go about our lives.

Late Friday night (okay, it was actually early Saturday morning according to the clock), Will was hungry.  He wanted to fix some food, but the kitchen is right next to the master bedroom and my husband, Bill, was asleep.  I suggested that Helena drive him to Wendy's late night drive through and chucked a $10 bill at them.  Will actually just got his driver's license that very day, but a brand new under 18 license in the state of Utah comes with restrictions.  One of those restrictions is no driving from midnight to 5 am. So, if he wanted to go, he had to have Helena drive him.  They left around 12:15 am.

At approximately 12:45 am, Bill's phone started to ring... loudly!  I had been in the bathroom scrubbing my face.  I don't usually answer Bill's phone, but it was so loud and it was so late, I decided to look at the caller ID.

It was Helena.

I quickly answered it to receive the phone call that every parent dreads.

Helena and Will had been in a car accident.

My heart sunk to the floor!  I quickly got from her reassurances that both she and Will were not hurt.  Then I found out that she had decided to take my car.  My NEW car.  I asked her if it was her fault.  She told me in a shaky voice that she didn't know, but she thought it might be.

Oh!  I was MAD!  She told me where she was and I told her to hold tight, that I'd be right there.

It was a dark and stormy night.  When I got to the scene of the accident, I could see the damage to my car, but I couldn't see any other vehicle.  That confused me.  I pulled up behind the kids so my headlights could shine on the damage and I set my hazard blinkers.

All my anger bled away when I got to Helena.  She was crying and saying "I'm so sorry!" over and over.  My poor baby!  I just stood there in the rain, holding and comforting her while she cried.

She pointed out where the other car was, about 2 blocks away on the other side of the street and told me her story.  She was pulling left out of Wendy's drive through when the tail of the car was hit by another car in the closest lane to the curb.  She pulled over right away and immediately started panicking, saying "Mom's gonna kill me!"  She didn't know what to do.  She started trying to call me right away.  She tried 7 times.  Because I was in the bathroom, I didn't hear my phone (which is habitually set to vibrate) in the living room.  That's when she decided to try her Dad's phone number.

As Helena was standing around looking at the damage to the car and wondering what to do, two young  gentlemen in a pickup truck stopped and asked her if she needed help.  She briefly told them what happened and they drove over to the other vehicle to check on its occupant(s).  When they returned to Helena, they told her that NO ONE WAS IN THE OTHER CAR!  They advised her to call the cops.  Once they knew her mom was on the way, they took their leave.

I got on the scene about 10-15 minutes after the accident.  Once I calmed Helena down and told her it would be alright, I called 911.  By the time the local police arrived, it had been over 20 minutes since the crash.

The police confirmed that the other car was vacant.  So weird!  The police were as puzzled as we were.  After having Helena fill out an accident report, the officer sent us home, telling me I could call her during the next graveyard shift to find out if they had located the other driver.

We had all sorts of theories about why the other driver would bail like that.

  1. Avoiding a DUI.
  2. Underage/No license/joyriding with Mom's car.
  3. A combo of 1 & 2.
  4. A freshly "hot" car.
  5. A warrant out for his/her arrest.
Okay, so that last one was a stretch.  I have a hard time picturing a warrant dodging Nissan Cube owner.  

It turned out, none of them were the case.  The driver/owner of the other car was just an odd duck.  She claims that she sat in her car for 10 minutes, but never saw the driver of the other vehicle, so she got out and started walking for home.  Really?  She has a 2010 Cube, but no cell phone?  And walking for home one town over is somehow a better alternative than asking the workers at the convenience store (or the McD's, or the Wendy's) RIGHT THERE to call the police for her?  She earned a citation for leaving the scene of an accident for that stunt.

Anyways, once I got everybody back home, I woke Bill up and told him the news, mostly so he wouldn't be shocked by the damage to the car when he stepped out to go to work the next morning.  Then I spent another hour talking to Helena about how lucky they'd been that the hit was to the back of the car and not where they were sitting...

... and to reassure her that, yes, this is a huge deal right now, and we'll get through it.

That's just it.  We will get through this.   It was scary, she needs to be more careful, and it is a big hassle with insurance and repairs and rental cars...

... but there will come a day a year from now when we can look back on this and realize that we did get through it and we did move on.  And there will be a day 5 years from now when we will realize that this accident wasn't even a very big deal in the whole scope of a lifetime.

She and Will are both home safe and sound, and that is really all that matters.
Wednesday, August 29, 2012 0 comments By: Kate

Snail Mail

My child of the technology age has recently had to learn the ins and outs of an old fashioned means of communicating...

Sending and waiting for letters in the mail.

With her boyfriend, Dagen, off on his mission, there will be no more phone calls, text messages, Skype video chats, or other forms of modern communication between them.  In order to keep in touch, they have to resort to the old postage paid, sit and wait for a reply version of long distance communication that previous generations lived with their whole lives.

It has been fun for me to watch her learn.

For instance, for the first several weeks of his mission, Dagen has been at the Missionary Training Center (MTC), but this past Monday he flew to his assigned mission field.  Before he left the MTC, he had sent Helena a letter asking for some pictures of her in order to show his roommates his beautiful girlfriend.  So, this past Friday, she planned to put a memory card full of pictures into an envelope and mail it to him, fully expecting that he'd get it that day or the next.

Remember, he was scheduled to fly out the following Monday.

I had to explain to her that the mail system simply is not that fast.  If she mailed it on Friday, it was very unlikely that he would receive it before his flight left on Monday morning.  She was quite dismayed.

Fortunately, there was another solution.  There is a local UPS store that will do a Friday only same day delivery of (small) boxes to the MTC for free!  They do not advertise this, it is a word of mouth sort of perk.  I heard about it from an old friend from our 'ballet mom' days.  If you can get the box to them before 3:00 pm, they deliver it that day.  Helena already had a box prepped and packed, so she just slipped the memory card envelope into the box to ensure that he got it.

The memory card thing is a modern-tech generation's version of sending pictures to each other, only they can also record video to send one another, as well.  That memory card is about to rack up a whole lot of travel miles, since it will go back and forth between them, enclosed in their letters.

It is fun to watch Helena anticipate the mail delivery each day, and extra fun to see her reaction when there is a letter from Dagen in the mail box!  Apparently, our mailman has already clued in on the special correspondence going on, because he makes sure to carefully arrange Dagen's letter on the top,  prominently displayed and oriented so it is the first thing to be seen when the mailbox opens.  So the letter from Dagen is always laying carefully in the front, not crammed in the back with the ads and circulars.  It probably makes the mailman's day to actually deliver REAL mail that is eagerly awaited, instead of the normal garbage that chokes the mail system these days!

I feel like this is one of those circle of life moments.  I know that sounds corny, but when I see Helena get excited or dejected about the mail, I can't help but think of all the generations before her who had the same experience waiting for news from a loved one far away... in the mission field, off to school, or serving on some far off battle front.  It is an experience that many of this next generation will probably never have.  So I am glad for her that she gets to experience it.

I'm not sure she is glad to experience it, though.

Maybe with time she will come to realize the value of owning and cherishing these real artifacts of her relationship with Dagen.  There is something so satisfying about holding a tangible letter that was hand written by the sender, instead of an electronically typed and sent missive.  The personality contained in the choice of ink color, the penmanship itself, and the care and consideration that went into writing it by hand are immeasurable.

Maybe she already feels that way?

At any rate, snail mail... the new/old way to communicate!

Monday, August 27, 2012 0 comments By: Kate

"Wanna Go To The Pool?"

I am asked this question often throughout the summer.  The actual activity du jour varies wildly, depending on who actually asked the question.

"Wanna go to the pool?"

Coming from my youngest son, Will, this is an invite to go put in some laps and work out together.  Sharing a lane is probable. Wetsuits may or may not be involved, depending on the time of day and/or weather.  An actual workout swimsuit is a must.  My gym bag must come, because it has my caps, goggles, and ear plugs.  He is definitely hoping I'll bring my pool 'toys'... hand paddles, pull buoy, kick board, fins... so he can use them, too.  Some time relaxing in the hot tub after the workout is done is a given.  He may or may not abandon me, depending on whether or not one of his friends also happens to be at the pool at that moment.

If I had to describe Will's pool self, it would be a fish.  Warm water, cold water... he is happy in it.  Living in and loving the water.

"Wanna go to the pool?"

This question from my daughter, Helena, is not actually an invite to SWIM.  This is an invite to go lounge next to the pool and bake in the sun.  A lounging suit is a must.  My phone for music and entertainment, ear buds, possibly reading material, and a wallet for the snack shack should all be included in the pool bag.  Now, I can't really tolerate just baking in the sun, so I go dunk myself in the pool every 10-15 minutes and return to my chaise pleasantly cooled off so I can lounge on.  I may even abandon my post at her side and just lay right in the water for a while.  Helena, however, is the all-time-family-record-holder-queen-bee of sun baking.  She is really quite the master at it.

If I had to describe Helena's pool self, it would be a lizard.  Basking and dozing in the sun.  Collecting its warmth to hopefully last her through the cold winter.

Bill never asks this question.  Or rather, I should say, I have no recollection of Bill ever asking me, "wanna go to the pool?"  It is just not in his nature to want to go to the pool.  He'd rather be on a bike.

So, which version of the question do I prefer, you ask?

I like them both.  I am happy to do both.  Usually not at the same time.  The three of us occasionally go to the pool together, but usually it is a one on one kind of deal.  Any which way you look at it, it is a win-win for me.

Time at/in the pool + time with my kids = a very happy me!
Sunday, August 26, 2012 5 comments By: Kate

Utah Half 2012

This was the event I have been planning and training for all year.  I have been dreading it for the past 3 months; afraid I wouldn't be able to accomplish it.  Surprisingly, the day before the race, I was able to compartmentalize my mind, so it didn't really hit me that the race was tomorrow until after I finished teaching for the day and started heading home from work.  Once THE RACE was the next thing on the agenda, that's when I really started stressing out.  So I guess it is a good thing I only had to go through the physical reactions to stress for a few hours instead of a few days!

It was like how I felt before my first half marathon, only multiplied by 10.  I thought I might be sick.

Early evening of the day before the race, my right hip started hurting deep in the joint.  It was more like an ache... it felt like it needed to pop.  That got me really paranoid!

(Hey guys, the next paragraph mentions female body parts and processes.  If you want, you can skip ahead to the next paragraph and we won't think any less of you.)

As if I wasn't nervous enough already, Aunt Flo stopped by for her monthly visit on the night before the race!  I hadn't even thought about how to deal with that kind of hygiene issue while on an all day kind of race.  I was worried about possible cramping during the race.  Not to mention how much more painful this was going to make my time on the bike, since lady parts get touchy and sensitive when Aunt Flo comes over.  In the end, I decided not to deal with Aunt Flo at all and just let that be one more layer of gross-ness that can be showered off after the race was over.  That strategy worked well for me, by the way.  Sorry.  I know that seems gross, but you do what you gotta do.

(Okay, guys.  You can come back now.)

The night before the race we had our normal Friday date night at Rubio's.  I packed my tri bag and my special needs bag.  Will loaded his windsurf board on top of the car (hoping for good wind while waiting for me during the race, it wasn't to be).  I had a second dinner of chicken and pasta.  I went to bed early.

On the morning of the race, I dragged myself out of bed at 5 am.  Bill did a last minute tune up of my bike and got it loaded on the car.  The kids slowly emerged from their bedrooms, and I actually managed to eat my entire breakfast and felt surprisingly calm.  I think it helped that I was alone in the kitchen at the time.  People talking to me about all things pertaining to the event seems to kill my ability to swallow.  I took a dose of naproxen sodium to keep swelling down and prevent joint pain, too.

We got down to the Provo marina just after 6 am.  The pre race meeting was scheduled to start at 6:20 and the race was supposed to begin at 7 am.  In the meantime, I had to get my number painted on (293), pick up and put on my timing chip (it goes around your ankle), set up my transition station, and get into my wetsuit.

It was a big transition station.  And mostly already full.  I wasn't the last to arrive, but the transition opened up at 4 am, so I was looking at just getting whatever space I could find.  However, I found just the perfect spot!  Transition is so big, and has so many bikes in it, that it can be hard to find yours if you aren't paying close attention to details.  The racks have row letters painted in the center aisle, starting with A, going through the alphabet, and repeating with double letters beyond that (I think mine was DD, or something like that).  But I had a better marker.  My bike was close to the lake and lined up perfectly with the exit ramp from the swim!

The pre-race meeting started late and because of that, the race also started late.  Instead of a 7 am start, I think the first wave of swimmers started at 7:27.  Or maybe it was 7:37.  Either way, it ended in a 7 because I did look at my watch.  I was in the last wave again.  Bill and the kids looked forward to watching me in the swim, but they weren't confident they'd be able to find me.  The joke was, "just look for the swimmer in the black wetsuit and the green cap."  Most people were in black wetsuits and the green cap was required for the race.  Still, with my pink goggles and the huge bump in the back of my swim cap made by my hair, they said they were able to spot me.

All my pre-race nerves washed away the moment I stepped into the water.  I had no thoughts beyond what was right in front of me... the swim.  I was committed.  It had begun.  The water was calm.  Flat.  Even if it was murky Utah Lake water.  Some final start line instructions through a megaphone and we're off!

There was lots of thrashing.  Lots of accidentally kicking someone and being kicked.  Or hit by flailing arms.  I think there is just no way around that.  I have a bruise on my left forearm that must be from someone kicking me.  We had to do 2 laps around the buoys.  My wave got into the swim course as the pros and men were starting their second lap, so the course was crowded.  I kept swimming off to my left and getting farther from the buoys than I wanted to.  However, it did get me out of the heavy traffic flow and I was able to settle down into my swim rhythm, which is something I couldn't do in last week's sprint.

Here's a secret about the Utah Half swim.  One fourth of the course is in shallow enough water to put your feet down and walk.  If you don't mind deep, soft, slimy mud, that is.  I found this out when I went to practice the course several weeks ago.  Apparently, there were plenty of people willing to put their feet in that mud, too.  I saw several walkers on the back stretch.  And, I admit it.  I did put my feet down for a few moments to rest on the second lap.  I even walked a few steps to catch my breath.  But only a few, I promise!

I know.  CHEAT!  Ah well.  It was only a couple of steps.  I didn't walk the entire section, as I saw others do.

Another thing I have noticed about the swim portion of triathlons is... backstroke is a BAD IDEA.  I can't tell you how many backstrokers I've seen headed off in the wrong direction!  Some into the center of the course, others out to sea (so to speak).  So, unless you are rockstar at keeping a straight course while stroking on your back... stick to front crawl and breast stroke so you can see where you are going!!!  Work out whatever issues you have with technique or breathing, because it is NOT worth it to end up massively off course in the middle of a race.  I do front crawl all the way, using breast stroke only to take a breather if I need one.

I had one bad moment in the swim halfway through when I suddenly started gagging and retching.  I don't know why, but I did manage to get it under control and keep swimming.  Finally I was in the last stretch of the swim and headed to the exit ramp.  Oh, that was the longest part of the swim!

I finished the swim in just under 51 minutes.  Not as fast as my pool swims by a long shot, but I was happy with how I'd done.

Will was waiting on the ramp for me.  He wanted to help me out of the water, but an official got to me first.  It was just as well, because I had forgotten to mention to the kids (and Bill, for that matter) that it was against the rules for me to accept help from anyone except officials and volunteers.  I gave Will a big, wet hug anyway and jogged off to the transition and my bike.

Helena came running up to congratulate me on the swim.  She and Will kept me company (through the fence) while I stripped off my wetsuit and got into my cycling gear.  It took me longer in transition because the kids were there, but I don't care.  I'd rather have my kids there showing me their love and support than have a fast transition time.  Bill was down at the car getting his bike ready.  The bike course was all on public roads, so I asked him if he would ride it with me, for moral support.  Besides, if I got a flat, I'd need him to fix it for me, rules or no rules.  I haven't learned that skill, yet.  I know.  My bad.  He was not the only non-competitor along the course.  There were lots of locals taking advantage of the policed course to get their personal workouts in.

Fortunately, I didn't get a single flat.  But we found other people stranded on the side of the road, and Bill always stopped to help them.  I'd keep going and he would catch up as soon as he could.  The first time was just right outside the marina park.  Bill said it took him 3 miles to catch up to me that time.  Another time Bill stopped to help a rider, the guy had already had 4 flats (we hadn't gotten to the half way point, yet) and a torn side wall on his tire.  Bill offered to give him a new tire (he was packing one for me... just in case), but the guy said 'no thanks, I'm done' and quit the race.  That was the first one I saw that could not complete the race.  Not the last.

The bike was 56 miles of beautiful rural countryside.  Mostly.  There was a little city riding, but there were cops at every intersection stopping traffic for us.  I loved that!  Early on I decided to go around 17 mph and keep to that pace.  That's only 1 mph over my training speed, so I felt it was doable.  I ended up averaging 17.5 mph, so my plan worked!

I picked up a bottle of Gatorade at the fueling station at the 15 mi mark.  I'd never snatched a bottle mid-ride before.  The volunteers hold them out to the riders as they ride past.  I'm proud of myself for managing to do it without crashing.  Most riders squirt as much of the liquid as possible into their mouths (or water pouches if they are on fancy/expensive tri bikes), then chuck the bottles to the side of the road for the volunteers to pick up later.  I stuck it in my extra bottle cage and kept it for the rest of the ride.

The ride was an out and back.  At the turn around (28 miles), there were volunteers waiting to bring special needs bags to the riders when they call out their bib number.  Most riders quickly stuff whatever they had packed into their jersey (or where ever) and are on their way in 30 seconds or less.

Not me.  I full on stopped and unclipped.  I was probably there for 10 minutes, just eating what I had packed.  I'm not good at eating while I'm riding.  So I stood there and ate my banana, protein drink, and whatever else I'd put in there for calories to make it to the next refueling back at transition.

I have to say that during the first half of the bike, I'd passed a lot of people.  They all blasted past me while I had my picnic at the turn around.  But the interesting thing is...

... on the second half of the bike, I passed them all back again, plus a few more people as well!  Many of them weren't able to sustain the same speed in the second half of the bike as they had in the first.  I maintained the same speeds throughout.  So I think the picnic turned out to be a good idea in the end.

Oh, and I can't tell you how good it felt to pass those 22 and 23 year old men.  And that one 36 year old guy that got so upset about me passing him, yet he couldn't manage to catch back up to me.  Hee, hee.  (Sorry.  Not very sporting of me.)

I can't thank Bill enough for coming with me on the bike!  He made it fun and relaxing, just like one of our normal training rides together.  So, thanks again, sweetheart!  You rock!

The watering station at mile 41 came up much faster than I'd expected, and before you know it, I was counting down the last 6 miles of the bike.  I wasn't sure what my increased pace on the bike was going to do to my running legs... the segment of the race I dreaded the most.

Back in transition, I took another dose of naproxen sodium, since I knew it had been 6 or more hours since the last dose.  I ate another banana and some other sport beans & Gu while I switched from my biking gear to my running gear.  I really spent a lot of time in transition this time, nearly 10 minutes!  But the kids were so happy to see me and hear about the bike that I spent some time talking to them while Bill put his bike away in the car and hurried to join them and wish me luck on the run.

Okay, I was also stalling because I really didn't want to do the run.  I still had to run a half marathon and all I really wanted to do was go jump back in the lake!

But, I couldn't stop now, with the swim and bike over, I was 2/3 done.  And, early that morning, I had written a message to myself on my left forearm.  "YouCanDoThis".  Just in case it was ever in doubt.



So, finally, I said goodbye to the family and headed out on the run.

Running without music is HARD.  I spent most of my time counting my breaths.  Sixty breaths of running.  20 breaths of walking.  Repeat.  I knew if I just ran without taking breaks, I wouldn't make it. So, I created intervals that I could sustain over the long haul.  I knew my time would be slower than a normal half marathon, but I thought it would be acceptable considering what I'd already gone through that day.  I was just hoping to come in under 3 hours on the run.  And I did!  2 hours 54 minutes.

The run is by far the most social part of the race.  The competitors can finally see eye to eye and chat with one another as they pass on the route.  Don't get me wrong, we were friendly on the bike, too, but the run was more so.  It was a two lap course, so there we were passing each other coming and going.  Lots of high fives and encouragement for each other.  Care and concern when you could see someone struggling.  I saw a man give up on the race during what I think was his second lap of the run.  Others were doubling over with nausea, but managed to keep going.  One awesome older gentleman was hobbling along with both knees in braces and a grimace on his face, but he never gave up.

I met a 34 year old woman named Lynette.  We ran together for about 1/2 a mile until she had to drop back.  She said this was her third year doing this race, and she's come in dead last in her division every year, but she just keeps coming and doing it anyways.  She had a great attitude about it.  She said that she may be slow, but only 1% of the world's population has ever participated in a triathlon, and only 1% of that group has ever attempted 70.3 or bigger.  I don't know if her figures are accurate, but they inspired her to keep going.  Several people congratulated me after the race on joining the 'elite' athletes, since this was my first monster race.  I laughed at that, because I don't consider myself an athlete, let alone an 'elite' one.

I have to say that the aid stations on the run were the best I've ever seen! They were roughly every mile.   There was water, Heed (an electrolyte drink), Gatorade, Coke (I tried it at one station and decided it was a bad idea... carbonation, no), gels, ice, and salt tablets.  Oh, and every other aid station had a kid maning a hose to spray down any athlete who wanted it.  I was carrying Will's phone (I'd forgotten mine at home), but I mostly managed to keep his phone dry AND get hosed off every single time.

For a few miles towards the end, my left ankle was hurting, and so was my right knee.  But after a while, they stopped hurting.  It's as if they decided since I wasn't paying attention, they'd just play nice.

I used the phone to text my position to the family periodically, starting at mile 7, so they would know when to position themselves at the finish and cheer.  By the end of the run, I was counting 20 breaths running, 20 breaths walking.  But, I made it!  I crossed the finish line with Bill, Helena, Will... and my brother, Erik, and his wife, Deanna, there to cheer me on!  I thought it was so awesomely sweet of Erik and Deanna to make time in their day to come see me finish!!!

After cooling down and visiting for a while, I discovered that Helena had gotten some specialized markers and wrote messages to me all over my car!  She was afraid I might get mad, but I loved it!  We got so many curious looks from other motorists on the freeway as we drove home.





The finisher's medal is a seriously heavy piece of hardware.  It felt cool wearing it and I was proud to earn it, but I can't help wondering just what, exactly, I'm supposed to do with it now (along with the others I've collected).  I think I'll get a curtain rod and install it on a wall in the back hall and hang them from that.  Bill can hang his, too.

Now I feel sore, tired, and hungry.  I calculated that I burned between 5,500 and 6,100 calories that day.  I have no idea how many I ingested.  Not that many, for sure.  Not even by half.

So, everything I eat today tastes absolutely AMAZING.  Really.  I don't think scrambled eggs have ever tasted so good!

However, I feel amazingly good!  Not as sore as I was after my first ever half marathon two years ago.

 I still can't believe I did it.  It didn't feel so huge while I was in the middle of doing it.  Just one step at a time until you get to the end and realize you just traveled 70.3 miles!

I'll stop rambling now and move on with my life.  Thanks for sticking with this extremely long winded post!  And thanks to all of you for your kindness, friendship, and encouragement along the journey!



Oh, and what's next, you ask?

Red Rock Relay - Zion

in two weeks.

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Official Record

PlaceBibName                       DivSwim   T1   Bike      T2   Run    Official

302293Katharina WatsonF404450:575:533:19:219:382:54:137:20:00.4

Wednesday, August 08, 2012 1 comments By: Kate

Farewells

Summer is ending.

I hate endings.

Really.  I have had such a good summer!  I have slept in more often than not.  I had one and only one goal this summer... exercise.  So, when my daily workout was complete, I was off the hook and could be as lazy as possible!  I have spent quite a few days playing at the pool with my little nieces, aged 3 and 18 months.  Those are some fun times!  I've been biking all over the valley, hiking, kayaking, windsurfing, swimming, running, having backyard bonfires... and all with no schedules!  I usually take off the watch for the summer, but this summer I kept it on because it is a waterproof lap timing watch that is useful when I swim.

And despite the lovely rash, I have enjoyed every single moment of this summer!

But it is almost over.

I officially go back to work next Thursday (a week from tomorrow, gasp!), but I still have to go put my classroom back in order before then.  I won't get paid for it, of course.  It just seems to be another one of those ways that teacher get taken for granted.  We are expected to have a classroom put together and ready for the school year, but we aren't given the paid time in which to do it.  I am not complaining, though.  My classroom is easier to set up than most, and I know many of the other teachers I work with have already spent many hours in the school getting ready for school to start.  I am likely the last one to straggle in and get my room ready.

But this post isn't just about saying farewell to summer.  An even bigger farewell happened just yesterday.  Helena's boyfriend, Dagen, left today to serve a two year mission for our church.  Yesterday they had to say their goodbyes.  They won't be able to see each other, or even call/text each other during those two years, so they'll have to rely on more archaic forms of communication.  I think they can e-mail (which is archaic to them) and they can certainly use snail mail.  In fact, Helena is already planning some cute care packages to send his way.

She won't be putting her social life on hold for two years, however.  She'll still go out with friends, and probably even date other guys.  But I certainly hope she'll keep all her socializing very casual and friendly so that she is still single when he comes home.  She'll only be 20 when he gets back, after all!  Still too young to get married, in my opinion.

I'm not saying I want her to marry Dagen, either.  I'm not ready to even entertain the thought, no matter who she ends up marrying.  She got a wedding invite in the mail today for a girl she was in Orchestra with!  This girl was a senior when she was a junior.  So she is getting married at the age of 19.  Gah!  That freaked me out.  I remember her from when I volunteered as a chaperon on an orchestra trip and it blows my mind that she is stepping from childhood so early.  Nineteen is still a teen, after all!

Phooey.  I'm rambling.  My thoughts on the whole subject are rather pointed and skewed by the fact that I am the mother.  I am just happy for her to keep living at home, and... how do I say this?  I am happy for her to have this experience of dating a boy who is willing to put his life on hold for two years over his religious convictions.  I'd have felt the same if he went and joined the Peace Corps for those two years if that was his passion.  It shows he is a young man of purpose and character, and I am glad she chose such a fine young man to be her boyfriend.  So I don't see this farewell as a tragedy.  Rather, I see it as a growing experience for both of them.

So, farewell, Dagen!  You probably never knew exactly how I felt about you dating my daughter.  What with the whole 'get home by curfew' business and being your girlfriend's parent, you probably thought I didn't like you.  Quite the contrary.  I think you are a fine young man!  Good luck, do well, and you have all of us rooting for you back here at home.

Farewell!

Collegiate Compromises

Growing up, I was told "If you're not in school, you're paying rent... or, you can move out."  Bill and I have said the same thing to our kids over the years, too.

But what do you do with the child who is working to save up for college, but doesn't have enough saved for tuition, yet?  And has a difficult time making herself save the money she needs?

You create a win/win compromise situation.

Starting in September, Helena will pay us rent.  Not the cheap I'm-living-with-my-parents-token-rent, either.  Full blown high end rent.  The kind of money she'd have to shell out if she was paying real people rent + car + gas + utilities + food.  The difference, of course, is that we will be putting that money into a savings account for her to pay college tuition.  If she moved out of the house for real, and had to start paying for all of those things, she'd never see that money again.  When she is ready to register, the money will be there for her.

And if she bails on her college plans?

The money will become ours.

Everyone seems very happy with this arrangement.  We'll see how it goes after a few months of rent paying...
Saturday, June 23, 2012 3 comments By: Kate

The Summer of Romance

Here I sit, waiting for my wandering teens to come home for the night.  Again.  Weekend curfew is midnight and Helena is off at Cafe Rio (or some such place) with her boyfriend and two other couples. Will is at his girlfriend's house watching a movie with her family.

Yes.  You read that right.  Helena and her boyfriend.  Will and his girlfriend.

Gah!  How did that happen?!?

I can't help but hear that old tune from the musical Grease.  You know the one?  "Summer Lovin'".  This seems to be the summer for romance.  The thing is, I can't remember getting older, so when did they?  There is another song from a musical for you.  "Sunrise, Sunset" from Fiddler on the Roof.

Oi.  I am old.  I have musicals stuck in my head!

Helena is 18 now and has been on lots of casual dates, so the transition to actually having a boyfriend is not that weird to me.  But Will!  That is weirding me out!  He just recently turned 16 and this girl was his first date, and now his first girlfriend.  I know my son is a handsome guy, it is just bizarre to me to know that there is a girl out there who is attracted to him. And that he's got the self esteem and, I don't know, hutzpah, to make the romantic move of making her his girlfriend! ... That might have come out wrong.  Of course girls should be attracted to him; he is good looking, after all!  But to me he will always be my little boy, and in my head, I still see him as a boy.  Phooey.

Helena's boyfriend is named Dagen.  He is 19 years old and lives one town over.  He works at a car dealership and is committed to leaving for a church mission in just two months.  He will be gone for two years.  I'm all for that!  I don't want to sound obnoxious, but they are both very young and dating should be casual at this point so that they can both explore the world and figure out who they are going to be.  There will be time later in their lives to explore serious relationship commitments.

Will's girlfriend's name is Ashley.  She is cute and friendly.  She turns 17 in July and is actually going to be a senior this coming school year.  Will is going to be a junior.  Other than that, they seem to have a lot in common and it is obvious they like each other.  Will now has added motivation to finish driver's ed and find a job this summer.  Helena was surprised to find out about Ashley, because she and Ashley had some classes together this past year and she didn't know Will and Ashley were developing a friendship.  But Helena thinks she is a wonderful girl and gave her stamp of approval to Will's girlfriend choice.

You better believe I've had "the talk" with both of the kids.  Several times, in fact.  Most of the time they seem to listen patiently and with an open mind.  Only occasionally do they give me the look.  You know, the 'argh, not this again' look.  I also gave Will several suggestions on date ideas that don't cost anything, since he doesn't have a job, yet.

So, I have a feeling that this will be my summer.  Sitting up every night, waiting for the wandering romantics to come home, looking forward to hearing about their summertime adventures.  Isn't it a great time to be alive?
Monday, June 18, 2012 1 comments By: Kate

Father's Day 2012

Father's Day morning I awoke to Bill coming home from the grocery store.  He had spent the day before on a 50 mile bike ride with a couple of other guys, so he had missed the weekly shopping trip.  I had done the shopping without a list, and as a result, I had forgotten several items for his lunches for the week.  When I got up, I found him getting ready to build a big family breakfast.  While fixing it, he said he wanted to take the family up into the mountains for the day.

So, after a fabulous breakfast, we went!

It was quite a drive up into the mountains, but we spent it in high spirits, laughing and rocking out to music with the windows down and sunroof open.  It is funny, I live right next to the mountains and tend to forget that there are even more mountains to explore than the ones I can see from my house.  And lots of different canyons and side valleys on every side.  We don't have to settle for the closest canyon if we are willing to adventure a bit farther up and farther in!


Bill took us to the Provo River Falls, in the high Uintahs.  I had no idea they existed!  It is a shame I have lived so close to this beautiful place for the past 20 years and never knew it!  There is no rough hike to get to them; there is a parking lot right off the road that is literally right next to one of the falls.  You just have to know they exist and how far up into the mountain roads to go to get there. 

 The water cascades down these amazing stairsteping rocks.  Honestly, it looks like some Hollywood set, or something.  The rocks are smooth and easy on your feet, the water is cold, but not too cold for playing in.  There were lots of people right around the parking lot area, but if you were willing to get your feet wet and climb a bit, you could quickly leave most of the people behind and explore all of the many waterfalls stacked one on top of the other.

 I will confess something right here.  There is a reason I am usually not in any of the photos.  I have always hated how I looked in photos because I have always (and by always, I mean for the past 17 years or so) hated my body.  I live in a family of super skinny people.  My husband is a muscular and no-fat athlete.  My kids both have extremely low body fat, too.  I think they inherited their dad's body type... thank goodness!  But I have been on the plump side for a long while, now.  I was overweight, pushing the envelope of obesity.

Until now.  For the first time in a lot of years, I am starting to like what I see when a photo is taken of me!

I have been working hard at creating a more active lifestyle for myself.  I am still working on trying to reduce the sugars in my diet.  I can now tell you that as hard as it was (and is) to get my muscles back in shape and lose inches (and hopefully pounds), correcting a faulty diet is MUCH harder.

Anyways, back to our adventure!

 While the kids and I messed around with the first waterfall, Bill wandered off across the river and found a great sunning rock.  These great slabs of rock were everywhere and made exploring barefoot possible, though in the end we all ended up tromping through the water with our shoes on, because the rocks in the riverbed could be sharp and unpredictable under the surface.


 Family photos in the sun!


One particular waterfall cascaded down two sides of a rock formation that looked like stairs, leaving an opening in the middle.  Will was the first to climb up it, but before long we all climbed up and played on it.  I think the picture below is pretty fantastic!  I know we ended up in several other people's photos, too, because this one was in sight of the parking lot view area.



 I really enjoyed the deep and rich colors created by the rocks and water.


 Helena was trying to figure out how deep this pool was.  It was deepest right below Will, between them there.  He was offering to help pull her up onto the rock, but she suspected his motive and was certain he was going to let go at the opportune moment and let her fall backward into the pool.

 This was a quadruple fall.  There was a little sitting spot between each fall, so we spend a bit of time here getting photo after photo.


 Notice Will making fun of posing for the camera?  He did this for several shots, and yes, it was an intentional gag pose.




We explored up the river for about a quarter mile until we all admitted we were getting hungry.  I was all for trekking back down the waterfalls to our starting point, but Bill wanted a different adventure.  He suggested we just strike out into the woods to find the road and walk back down it to our car.  That turned out to be the right move.  The woods were open and shady and it didn't take long at all to find the road.  We got slightly bug eaten, but it was worth it to get back to the car so easily.

 Bill drove us to another parking lot, where he wanted us to go on a short hike to the top of one of the peaks called Mt. Baldy (there are several of them in the state), but we were all too hungry and disinclined to get more bug eaten, so Bill drove us, instead, to Mirror Lake.

 This beautiful little lake resides at about the 10,000 foot elevation!  We were wishing we had canoes, kayaks, and swim suits with us.

After Mirror Lake, Bill drove us to the summit at 10,700 feet, and mentioned that we were only about 30 miles from the Wyoming border.  The kids were keen on crossing the state line for the additional adventure.  They had never been in Wyoming... at least not in their memory.

So, we did!

We came out of the mountains into the high, grassy plains of Wyoming.  A while after crossing the state line, Helena wanted to know why we were still headed east.  I pointed out to her that Evanston, WY was only about 20 miles away and was certainly the closest food opportunity around.

So, we went to Evanston, Wyoming.

First stop?  A fireworks stand!  Utah has the most restrictive fireworks regulations in the mountain west.  Most towns right across the border have fireworks stands to take advantage of the Utah residents who make a dash across the border for their pyro needs.  Fireworks at these stands are a GREAT price!  You can get 3 times the fun for the same amount of dough.

After picking up a little something, something (I can neither confirm nor deny the presence of pyrotechnics on our return trip), we started our hunt for lunch/dinner.

Evanston is a small town and very spread out.  We found the obligatory McD's, Wendy's, and Arby's... but none of those seemed worthy of our adventure or of Father's Day.  So I googled eateries in town and we decided to find a little spot known as Don Pedro's.


To say it was a dive is putting it mildly.  The place looked sketchy at best.  Helena later admitted she was not thrilled to be going in.  Run down with old everything inside and out.  However, there were a fair amount of cars outside, so we wanted to check it out.

 I am so glad we did!  It was delicious!  I wasn't sure of what to order, and when I asked the waiter's opinion on two entrees, I could tell he wasn't that enthusiastic about either one.  He said something along the lines of "look at me, I have brown skin!  Most Americans like both of those entrees, this one is most popular with Americans."  

Oh ho!

So, I asked him HIS favorite items on the menu and ordered his first choice.  It was bacon wrapped grilled shrimp smothered in cheese on a bed of grilled onions and peppers and served fajita style.

It was sinfully delicious!  Ahhhhh!

After dinner, we decided to linger in Evanston for about 30 minutes before starting our journey back home again.  We went to the Bear River Walk, a long paved trail next to the river that was designed for runners and cyclists to enjoy.  We had fun just walking and talking for a little bit on the trail before finally heading home.  

It was one of those sunshiny, happy days full of laughter and love.


I hope we can do it again, soon!