During Bill's birthday party that wasn't (see previous post), conversation at one point centered around how horribly behaved teen aged children can be. I sat and listened to all the awful stuff my nieces and nephews have done behind their parents' backs (and even to their faces). The longer I listened, the more I realized just what wonderful teen aged children I have!
My kids are certainly not perfect, I grant you. And we don't always see eye to eye. We've had our share of fights and grief. However, I know they have never gotten into any of the trouble of the type I heard about last night. And they are nearly always respectful, even when they are mad at me. They are both still virgins (including 'virgin lips'), neither has a 'boyfriend'/'girlfriend', they don't smoke, drink, or do drugs.
In fact, my daughter just spent her Saturday night working on a physics project, playing with her old doll house (which we keep in the storage room for whenever Kirsten brings her two year old, Tori, over), and chatting with her good friend, Daniel, on the phone. She will be 17 in one month.
I am very glad that her teen age years have been so full of fun and innocence. I don't want her to have a boyfriend at all until she is at least in college. Lots of guy friends, of course, but no boyfriends to confuse her and distract her from growing up gracefully.
My son still lets me hug and kiss him, even sometimes in public. He'll let me hold his hand while I drive him to school and talk to him about his classes and grades. He is willing to listen to me when I lecture. He is happy, helpful, and kind. He is 14 1/2.
My brother in law, Paul, thinks it is weird that a teen aged boy will show public affection for his mother, but I think Paul is too jaded and cynical and that it is a wonderful thing! After all, when we tell our young women how to judge the character of the young men they meet, we tell them to watch how the young man treats his mother. I think my son will make a very loving husband some day.
2 comments:
I think we forget that girls should look at how the boys treat their moms. And that your son isn't so much embarrassed by it says a LOT for your mothering skills. :)
Aw, thanks Sara!
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